Are There Other Moms Going Through This?
Something I hear often—whether from clients navigating infertility, pregnancy, postpartum, or infant loss—is this vulnerable question:
“Is this normal? Are other women feeling this way, too?”
If you’ve ever asked yourself that, please know:
Yes. You are not alone.
According to Postpartum Support International (PSI), 1 in 5 women experience depression or anxiety during the perinatal period—and that number is likely even higher for parents in high-stress circumstances, including:
- Queer and trans families
- Military families
- Teen parents
- Single parents
- Parents of multiples
- Parents of color
- Those who have experienced pregnancy or infant loss
Risk Factors for Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs)
There are many reasons someone may be more at risk of experiencing perinatal depression or anxiety, including:
- A personal or family history of mental health conditions (depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, OCD, etc.)
- A history of trauma or abuse
- Unplanned or unwanted pregnancy
- Complications during pregnancy, birth, or lactation
- Major life transitions (e.g., grief, relocation, job loss)
- Fertility struggles or losses
- Having a baby in the NICU
If You’re Struggling, There Is Hope
Here are a few supportive steps to consider:
- Seek social and practical support
This could look like asking for help with daily tasks, prioritizing sleep, carving out time for yourself, reading or listening to a podcast, or joining a support group. - Consider therapy
Mental health counseling can offer a space to feel seen, supported, and understood. - Consult with a medical provider
Sometimes, medication is a helpful part of treatment. A qualified professional can help you find the right path for you.
So… Why Aren’t We Talking About This More?
Although awareness around perinatal mental health is growing, stigma and silence still exist. Many parents fear being judged or worry their struggles mean they aren’t “cut out” for motherhood. But here’s the truth: struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human. Reaching out for support isn’t just brave—it might also give someone else permission to do the same.
As PSI reminds us:
You are not alone. You are not to blame. With help, you will be well.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed during pregnancy or postpartum, you’re not alone—and support is available. I offer in-person, virtual, and Walk and Talk therapy sessions. When you’re ready, I’m here.
